premature-ejaculationPremature ejaculation can be embarrassing, harmful to one’s self-confidence, and mood-killing, but it does not have to happen. There are several techniques that you can try before and during sex to keep from ejaculating early.

Stopping premature ejaculation before sex

kegel_exercises_for_men_benefits_520x620Kegel exercises

Kegel exercises work out the pubococcygeus muscle, which is what allows men to stop their urine flow mid-stream. This same muscle, when contracted, can also stop men from ejaculating. Strengthening this muscle and contracting it right before you feel like you are about to orgasm can stop early ejaculation quite effectively.

Reduce anxiety

Anxiety, whether it is caused by the performance of sexual acts specifically or is just caused by general life stress, can cause early ejaculation. Doing yoga, talking to a therapist or with your partner, and meditating are all things that can help decrease anxiety levels.

Stress is one of the biggest causes for any change in sexual performance from erectile dysfunction to premature ejaculation.

Stress in the body causes a release of the hormone cortisol, too much can interfere with how well you can control your performance.

Talk to someone

The human mind and the body work together in mysterious and often unexpected ways.

If you are having a sudden problem with premature ejaculation it may be worth it to talk to some in confidence about it.

You may find that a worry, recent loss or recent gain or turn in good fortune may be throwing you off for a bit. Making the connection can very often resolve the problem quickly.

Increase zinc and protein in your diet

Many studies have shown that a zinc deficiency and limited protein intake in the diet can affect your performance in bed.

Eat more meat, nuts and grains – along with a healthy serving of tomatoes to start righting the nutritional imbalance that may be causing your problems with ejaculation.

Take more vitamin C and E

Vitamin C and E are considered to be very important to the process of sperm mobility.

While you can take an E supplement once a day, vitamin C has to be taken several times a day as it is water soluble and you won’t store it in your cells.

Start-stop method

This is a handy exercise for early ejaculators. Stimulate your penis until you are almost ready to orgasm, then attempt to stop yourself from ejaculating. Once you have stopped yourself from orgasming, start the stimulation again and repeat. The goal is to last as long as possible.

Masturbate before sex

This is especially helpful if you are already turned on and in the mood. The longer you go without ejaculating, the easier it is to ejaculate early.

Let it be

Do all of the above and let it be, stop worrying. All men experience premature ejaculation throughout their lives for a number of reasons.

If you follow through with all of the suggestions above, and make them a part of how you take care of yourself, you won’t have to panic if you suddenly go through a period where you don’t have as much control as you want during sex.

During sex

Choose sex positions carefully

Positions that involve more muscle tension are associated with more occurrences of premature ejaculation. Instead of something like missionary, try spooning, doggy, or female superior (lady on top)—really any position that limits muscle tension.

Squeeze

If you feel yourself starting to ejaculate too soon, stop and squeeze right below the head of the penis, applying pressure (focused on the urethra) with your forefinger and thumb. This pushes blood out of the penis, decreasing sexual tension and stemming the ejaculatory response.

Focus on your partner’s pleasure first

Do not go into sex thinking of your own orgasm; after all, if you have a problem with premature ejaculation, then you obviously do not have a problem climaxing. Instead, do the things that you know that she likes and get her to orgasm first. Focus on her experience instead of concentrating on your own. Giving her the first orgasm means that you do not have to worry about not satisfying her and it can help rid you of any performance anxiety.

Avoid vigorous thrusting

Instead of repeatedly thrusting, settle your penis in the vaginal entrance (that is where the most nerve endings are) or press it against her clitoris. When you do begin to thrust, do it so that it only penetrates the first few inches of her vagina, keeping your movement short and shallow. Refraining from vigorous thrusting will help you last much longer.

Sources

Chaves, Hernando MD. Tips For Curing Premature Ejaculation. Available from: http://www.askmen.com/dating/dzimmer/14_love_answers.html.

Kerner, Ian (2004) 6 Steps to Beat Premature Ejaculation. Available from: http://www.menshealth.com/health/6-steps-beat-pe.

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